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Boldness: The Purge

2/18/2011

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I think this Boldness thing is going to turn into a heading  for the whole moving across the country project...

I'm sentimental. How sentimental I didn't realize until recently. I found a scrap book with ticket stubs and other paper treasures from 7 years ago, and a whole drawer of trinkets from events I've attended that I just can't seem to part with.

I've been struggling for a while with a desire to live a minimalistic lifestyle, and the desire to preserve memories. There is something about an uncluttered life that really appeals to me. The ability to pack up and move whenever you want. Having few things to care for. Your space being cleaner, for the most part. I like all of that. I also like knowing that my kids will be able to see the NASA Tweetup badges I've collected, and the ticket stubs from my trips overseas. With my big cross country relocation happening rather soon, I need to figure out how to find a balance.

Here is what I'm learning.


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Renting a moving van or trailer and towing it across the country is going to be too expensive for me. This means I need to purge. Furniture is leaving, books are being sorted, and possessions sold or donated.

Last weekend I went through my closet. The photos to the right and below are what happened. I went from a full rack of dresses and business-wear down to a mere two feet of bar space. That space under the empty hangars is now filled with boxes that need to be sold or given away. So far only one is going to live with my parents for safe keeping. I can't say how great it felt to see those 7 (YES, SEVEN!) bags of clothes disappear. I didn't wear them anyway, they were just holding me back.

Sorting through the papers and boxes of memories was harder. I found things I saved from trips to India and Romania, but haven't looked at in years. This is as good a time as any to sort through life and choose what is most important, but that doesn't mean I didn't cringe a little seeing them go into recycling. As I watched the bin fill up, and my memories condense, it made me feel bold again. It's a little reckless to let go and make space for new experiences. I like it. You should try it...


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Some tips on how to let go:

1. Don't do it all at once
I've gotten myself suck in the corner of a room, surrounded by papers and boxes, looking at every single thing, making the hard decisions of what to keep and what to toss. A much better idea is to pick one box or drawer and take that on by it's self. Odds are you are bigger than it is, so you'll win.

2. Do it more than once
Going through a box or set of sentimental items a second time with the same purpose - condensing - will give you an even better perspective on what's important, and a smaller pile in the end.

3. Choose a size and stick with it
Me, I'm limited by the size of my car for the most part. That's how much stuff I can keep. (No matter what, gear stays. I don't care if I have to mail it.) Go to the container store (aka. Heaven) and choose a sturdy box that will fit the space you want to fill and stick to it. If it doesn't go in, it doesn't stay.

4. Remember the objects aren't memories
When you get rid of an object, you aren't throwing away the memory with it. I'm remembering the movie "Up" where the main character decides to move forward with his life and pushes his treasured objects out the door. Things are temporary. Find other ways to honor those memories: Photos, small scrap books, journals... all small space-saving ways to keep memories close.

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Elizabeth link
2/20/2011 09:32:44 am

The container store, aka "Heaven." Hahahaha, that is so perfect. :)

Seriously, though, I am inspired by your purge. I've been working on the same thing the last year, at a much slower pace. I keep going through my stuff, each time the piles getting a little smaller. It's a great feeling each time I can live a little bit lighter.

Best of luck, stick with it!

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Eileen link
2/20/2011 12:46:20 pm

I've been doing that a bit too, slowly but fairly regularly.

One thing I've done that helps in terms of keeping memories instead of things is to make digital copies of things, for example, I took pics or scanned certain ticket stubs, etc, then I recycled them.

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Katie link
2/22/2011 06:21:53 am

The house I grew up in burned down in 2007 while I lived in Alaska, and with it went, well, pretty much everything. It was absolutely devastating. But I learned a lot from it, including the fact that, like you've said, the things aren't what make the memories. Things are just that - things - and we can mostly do without them.

The one box of stuff I'm elated survived the house fire was my box of journals. Without those, I'd be lost!

I'm so excited to see what the future holds for you, and wherever you end up, you can bet I'll come visit :)

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Outside Brian link
2/23/2011 12:16:03 am

This is a good example of how you are not the things you own. They do not define the person you are, you do.

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